An Anti-Facebook Rant

By Deane Barker on January 14, 2008

With friends like these … Tom Hodgkinson on the politics of the people behind Facebook: This is a very long rant against Facebook, and social-networking in general. It gets deep into the politics of the founders and over-capitalism, and all that, but I was struck by this bit towards the beginning.

A friend of mine recently told me that he had spent a Saturday night at home alone on Facebook, drinking at his desk. What a gloomy image. Far from connecting us, Facebook actually isolates us at our workstations.

Facebook appeals to a kind of vanity and self-importance in us, too. If I put up a flattering picture of myself with a list of my favourite things, I can construct an artificial representation of who I am in order to get sex or approval.

The Internet sucks the soul out of the relating to people in general, but are the advantages worth it? The Internet allows a large quantity of relationships of less quality. Is it worth it?

Gadgetopia

Comments

  1. Naval-gazing assery, written to tell a flood of people voluntarily using a site not to use the site.

    I vehemently dispute your tossed-off statement that the Internet sucks the soul out of relating to people in general.

  2. I think there’s a lot of coolness to Facebook – but your page gets filled up with applications you found other people using. (I influenced my cousin to use the Chinese Name application, for example). And your news feed is all about everything everybody did to everyone else. :-)

  3. Deane, do you really believe your statement? Could you elaborate?

    Recent research by the University of Amsterdam in cooperation with Hyves (largest social network in The Netherlands, 5m users) shows that Hyves strengthens offline relations, instead of weakening them or preventing users from being social offline.

    Hyves users turned out to even have a more active social life offline, compared to non-hyves-users. The 3000 people that were “researched” (I don’t know if they were interviewed one by one) indicated that they mainly use Hyves to get in touch with old friends and colleagues.

    I don’t see why this should be much different in the US. I wonder why social networks often get this negative vibe from people saying that they are evil and talking down at people using them. What’s your take on that?

    This is a press release quoted by a newssite: http://www.nu.nl/news.jsp?n=1366168&c=50

    P.S.: I’m a avid reader of your blog, keep it up!

  4. Deane, do you really believe your statement? Could you elaborate?

    I’ve been online so long now, that perhaps I’m a little jaded by this point. But the Net seems to increase the quantity of the relationships I have, but at a superficial level. I relate to a lot of people now, but at little significant depth.

    I have hundreds and hundreds of people that I’ve “met” on the Net. I have touch-and-go, once-in-a-while relationships with these people, but I know little about them, and they know little about me.

    At the same time, my circle of “real life” friends seems to get smaller and smaller. We don’t sit down for a beer, because we can always email. Email provides a veneer of intimacy, which helps us avoid anything more real.

  5. I am sick to my stomach about Facebook. It seems like it’s one big college frat party….sex and alcohol being the main topics. People pretending to be connecting to others but really only do so to massage their own egos. People pretending to be caring when all it is is fast-food, who’s next, stroke my ego, talk dirty, fool around on people who really do care.

    It’s all kind of sad really.

  6. Most of people that are on facebook have not read ‘terms and condition’ – this is really sad for them otherwise they would know that all information on facebook are not their property anymore but property of facebook (which is illegal in democratic country) and they sell information about you to companies.

    When I tried to destroy my account it was impossible – facebook keep information about me forever. Now, my account is unactivated.

  7. And do you know what the funny part is.. Now if you don’t have a facebook account you are considered to be a third world inhabitant. I hate these networking sites.. It’s so ridiculous for someone to waste his/her time to these bulls….t! Childish and silly… I wish someone could close it down for good.. I know people that they might consider commit suicide if this happened.. The world is going MAD…

  8. My shirt is blue. Facebook, and internet communications in general deprive us of the sensory information our brains require to make real decisions and decipher the truth about the physical world. Its a liars paradise, as you see, my shirt is actually black. Does that information matter? Probably not. You’ll never know because your eyes will never see it. And though the internet allows voice and video to be transported, it fails to reveal to our sensory brains, that essential concecpt of situational awareness that is so important to the social habits of people. For example, you can feel when someone is uncomfortable, or pick up on the body language that someone is about to make an excuse to leave your presence. And some people take great care to manipulate that fault to its full advantage. The internet fails on so many social levels, yet for many people it has become the foremost means of communicating with people outside of their homes. (A recent survey found people ranking the internet as essential as heat, water and hydro in their budgets) Facebook isn’t evil, its merely, like the rest of the net, a sensory info deprived void that people take advantage of by indulging in vanity. The formula for the sucess of networking sites is quite simple. The more people can input (truthfully or otherwise) about themselves, the more atractive it becomes. Is it really the internets fault that people choose to use it in that way? Of course not, the internet is a great idea. Its the people your supposedly communicating with that you have to watch out for. I’m telling you the truth about my shirt and that doesnt matter. That information isnt tangible.

  9. It just makes me a little sad thats all. I remember when people went out of the way to catch up with friends. Now they just email or something equally less personal.

  10. The worst part of the whole thing is how easy it is for people to get tied up into the bullshit, the false information that is fed from one person to the next is inexcusable. The users of these websites base themselves on how many friend they have, is it jut me or is this just one giant popularity contest, its truly sad. The creators of these websites are truly the scum of the earth that are making millions and millions of dollars by peoples stupidity, its so incredibly discusting, i though i was the only person in the world who has a strict anti-facebook policy. Being a 22 year old male and not being involved in all this bullshit is an acomplishment, and knowing all my friends and even my fiance are a part of it makes me steam, but it also fuels my fire, it makes me realize my strength is greater than theirs. These websites are personal adds, made for these people to promote themselves under false pretenses 90% of the time. Taking photos of the side of your faces so noone can see the true ugliness that radiates off of you is proving that you will pour as much gas into your own tank to keep you moving as long as you can until eventually you run out of gas, but they continue to fuel themselves and hope and pray tha others will spare them fuel by “commenting” on their photos , its so discusting, all of it. It is a personal ad, plain and simple, its no different from say match.com, or any of those other sites, its just people promoting themselves to get friends and it is sad.

  11. Facebook is not as innocent as it looks, a friend of mine was forced to make an account on facebook. And he almost got fired because he joined movements with different from the ideas from the well-known Kinepolis Group of which he worked for. Facebook is changing from a network site to a social controlling system. It’s more and more a social obligation. Example: i missed a wedding from one of my own family members because the invitations were ony sent y facebook. It’s becoming something we depend on and in he end evryone will need this, otherwise you will be isolated from your friends.

    It’s a smart way to force facebook in everyone’s lives. Because people think it’s needed. Also, know tht facebook knows better then you how your social network of friends and fmily is built.

    That’s why evryone should know the power that the men behind facebook have. I’m not saying facebook is bad, but be aware of the power it has to control you

  12. I just searched online to see if anyone else has the defiant feelings that I do about facebook, and I am pleased to see comments with great articulation on the subject. Today, I was again asked why do I not join facebook. I feel every time someone asks that question, I have to come up with a valid argument which I know will never convince them. Their minds have already been thrashed by the facebook bug. They think I, and other people who decide to avoid the social-networking frenzy of so called friends and declarations of sad and egotistical facts, that we are weird. Well I am happy to be outside of their bubble and “weird” in their opinions. The world has gone mad for another trend and I’m sure, like every other trend before it, it wont last.

  13. I am very glad to have found other anti-facebook people! I was bamboozled into joining the site about a year ago before I really knew what it was. I now find that the vast majority of its users are ego-maniacs who seem to think that everyone wants to know the boring details of their lives. However, I am now in a slightly tricky situation where I need to in effect ‘police’ the site in case anyone posts any details or images of me that could be a detriment to my work (I am a self- employed musician/teacher). Fortunatly I am quite good at avoiding photographs being taken of me and am rarely in a situation where a particularly embarassing one could be taken! I suddenly feel like an outsider to a number of my peers…I just don’t get Facebook.

  14. Honestly I agree completely. To me facebook or as I like to say stalkerbook is means for people to take a perverted interest in the lives of other people. Every self-fulfilling detail about oneself can be display and transmitted over that site. Of course with all main stream trends its always the idiocy of society that embraces the trend to the fullest. I am happy not to be part of that group.

  15. Whew! Thank you for all the posts that have articulately and accurately expressed some of the problems with facebook. I did a search on google under “sad” and “facebook”, and other searches, and came upon this discussion.

    Facebook and other social networks are a deceiving tool. Sounds a bit like an oxymoron, but that’s part of why it is so difficult to part from it. Facebook is a tool, and can do a lot of good. But it can be unbelievably destructive if not used in moderation.

    It is a grand subject with so many nuances, but I would just like to say that I very much concur with what has been written above.

    Special mention goes to the comments above from “No Proof” and “Jo”. Thank you!

  16. i just hate it..it is fake book… not facebook.. the friends u have there are all fake ..it is good for peopele who have time in hand.. and peoles ego etc very dangerous. .i feel it sould be banned.

  17. I also don’t like facebook and other social networking site. Actually most of the people waste their time, money and bandwidth in such sites. I feel totally afraid when most of the guys and girls upload their personal info, photos, real email address, contact no., address and much more.

  18. Facebook (It doesn’t deserve a big heading) A social networking site that makes it ok for people to stalk one another, lets teenage girls pose holding drinks with less than 1% alcohol, and makes even the dropkicks look like social suaves. A place where people pretend to have heaps of friends that, really they have only made eye contact with and a place where you can talk to that HAWT BOI at the bus stop without being a complete dickhead (because as we all know, saying something over the computer is much more acceptable than saying it face to face!)

    And for those who say, “I just want it to catch up with friends that I haven’t seen in a long time” there might be a reason why you haven’t seen them in a while…THEY DON’T LIKE YOU! That or you are just a tool and think it’s ok to stalk people. And since when did going on the computer become cool?!?!

    One of my friend’s said to me, “Oh my god! You don’t have a Facebook! Do you have a life?” Very, VERY ironic. I’m the one without a life talking to my friends on the phone or in person and you have the most fulfilling life sitting on the computer talking to your posse of BAAAAAAABY GURLZZZZZ!

    Why would everyone want to know what everyone else is doing? “Oh boy! Cindy wrote on Shamus’ wall!” WHO GIVES A RATS!?! What an invasion of privacy! And then you get the kids “facebooking” (apparently that’s a verb now) at school. sigh will you ever learn? Oh, we can all see the point of talking to someone on Facebook when they’re sitting next to you… BECAUSE IT’S DIGITAL WHICH MAKES IT WAY MORE FUN THAN ENGAGING IN ACTUAL CONVERSATION!

    It’s all in the name…FACEBOOK. A book of your FACE, not your breasts, 6 pack, or stiletto bearing legs! Who wants to comment on blurry photos of an arm, leg, ear, eye in your album “MY TOTS DRNKN NITE OUT WIF ALL MA CREW?” The answer to that…OTHER FACEBOOK LOSERS LIKE YOURSELF!

    A social networking site…dear me, that does sound a lot like those dating services with all the desperate men looking for love and a good time. Oh yes indeed, everyone’s favourite social networking site, Facebook is definitely the place to be because you can be just like fat and greasy Peter on Lava Life reloading his profile every 0.18 of a second to see if anyone’s commented on his pictures (which have obviously been photoshopped) to see if anyone finds him remotely SXC or interesting. News for you greasy Peter and all-to-similar Facebookers, you are stupid!

    I must give this complete, waste of time site some credit though…you are better than “slutsville” and “pimp-wannabe” Myspace. Having fake friends, mmmm yeah I can live with that. But rating friends, that is just RIDICULOUS! Myspace; where a normal conversation sounds like, “PLZ COMMENT ON MA HAWT NEW PICS BABEEEEEEZ! ILY MWA” And if one dares not to… “OMFG! WTF! U TOTS DIDN’T COMMENT ON MA PIC WIF ME DRINKING A CRUISA! YOR TOTS MOVING DOWN MA TOP FRIENDS! BIATCH” Nuff said.

    In conclusion, sure, it’s ok to have a Facebook. Hell, someone made a fake one for me, probably so they could have another friend on their HUGE list (pfft, jerks!). But I tip my hat to the people that have not fallen into this trap. Not the people who have one who just haven’t become addicted; you’re good, but you’re still an idiot! I salute those who have phone conversations and go over to people’s houses to make verbal conversation. Hell, I’ll even salute telegrams if they’re bold enough. But there is no way that I would ever salute the self-obsessed boys and girls (notice how I didn’t say men and women, because these people are quite childish) that centre their lives on stalking other boys and girls. You are what I like to call…a moron.

  19. Facebook (It doesn’t deserve a big heading) A social networking site that makes it ok for people to stalk one another, lets teenage girls pose holding drinks with less than 1% alcohol, and makes even the dropkicks look like social suaves. A place where people pretend to have heaps of friends that, really they have only made eye contact with and a place where you can talk to that HAWT BOI at the bus stop without being a complete dickhead (because as we all know, saying something over the computer is much more acceptable than saying it face to face!)

    And for those who say, “I just want it to catch up with friends that I haven’t seen in a long time” there might be a reason why you haven’t seen them in a while…THEY DON’T LIKE YOU! That or you are just a tool and think it’s ok to stalk people. And since when did going on the computer become cool?!?!

    One of my friend’s said to me, “Oh my god! You don’t have a Facebook! Do you have a life?” Very, VERY ironic. I’m the one without a life talking to my friends on the phone or in person and you have the most fulfilling life sitting on the computer talking to your posse of BAAAAAAABY GURLZZZZZ!

    Why would everyone want to know what everyone else is doing? “Oh boy! Cindy wrote on Shamus’ wall!” WHO GIVES A RATS!?! What an invasion of privacy! And then you get the kids “facebooking” (apparently that’s a verb now) at school. sigh will you ever learn? Oh, we can all see the point of talking to someone on Facebook when they’re sitting next to you… BECAUSE IT’S DIGITAL WHICH MAKES IT WAY MORE FUN THAN ENGAGING IN ACTUAL CONVERSATION!

    It’s all in the name…FACEBOOK. A book of your FACE, not your breasts, 6 pack, or stiletto bearing legs! Who wants to comment on blurry photos of an arm, leg, ear, eye in your album “MY TOTS DRNKN NITE OUT WIF ALL MA CREW?” The answer to that…OTHER FACEBOOK LOSERS LIKE YOURSELF!

    A social networking site…dear me, that does sound a lot like those dating services with all the desperate men looking for love and a good time. Oh yes indeed, everyone’s favourite social networking site, Facebook is definitely the place to be because you can be just like fat and greasy Peter on Lava Life reloading his profile every 0.18 of a second to see if anyone’s commented on his pictures (which have obviously been photoshopped) to see if anyone finds him remotely SXC or interesting. News for you greasy Peter and all-to-similar Facebookers, you are stupid!

    I must give this complete, waste of time site some credit though…you are better than “slutsville” and “pimp-wannabe” Myspace. Having fake friends, mmmm yeah I can live with that. But rating friends, that is just RIDICULOUS! Myspace; where a normal conversation sounds like, “PLZ COMMENT ON MA HAWT NEW PICS BABEEEEEEZ! ILY MWA” And if one dares not to… “OMFG! WTF! U TOTS DIDN’T COMMENT ON MA PIC WIF ME DRINKING A CRUISA! YOR TOTS MOVING DOWN MA TOP FRIENDS! BIATCH” Nuff said.

    In conclusion, sure, it’s ok to have a Facebook. Hell, someone made a fake one for me, probably so they could have another friend on their HUGE list (pfft, jerks!). But I tip my hat to the people that have not fallen into this trap. Not the people who have one who just haven’t become addicted; you’re good, but you’re still an idiot! I salute those who have phone conversations and go over to people’s houses to make verbal conversation. Hell, I’ll even salute telegrams if they’re bold enough. But there is no way that I would ever salute the self-obsessed boys and girls (notice how I didn’t say men and women, because these people are quite childish) that centre their lives on stalking other boys and girls. You are what I like to call…a moron.

  20. To “Sorry for the long rant”, I couldn’t have said it better myself. I’m 25 and I think I’m definitely in the minority amongst people my age as someone who despises Facebook and other “social networking” BS. These people act like self-obsessed adolescents, for crying out loud. “Sarah is eating pizza”, “Mel is nervous for her date”, “Joe is pissed off at his parents.” As you said, who the hell cares about all these inane details?! It feels like high school all over again! I knew a girl who would go on and on about having 1,000+ “friends” on Facebook and about the fact that she “knew everyone.” How many of those people do you really know, though? I also don’t get the excuse of getting back in touch with people from your past. Sorry, but I prefer to leave the past where it belongs – in the past. If I wanted to keep in touch with someone back then, I would still be friends with them! I’m not about to go on Fakebook and search for my entire Kindergarten class and hope for some sort of superficial, cyberconnection. Give me a break!

  21. I don’t like facebook any more than the next guy, but i cant help but think its extremely ironic that us like minded individuals are all conversing via an online forum in a very similar way to that of how facebook operates, about how much we dislike it and how impersonal it is.

  22. THE ANTI-FACEBOOK BOOK

    my book ‘friends like these…’ (which is no relation whatsoever to hodgkinson’s guardian piece of an uncannily similar title) is a collection of letters which i wrote to the 250+ individuals on my friends list before i deleted my account back in february.

    it’s brutally honest, so if i like somebody, i say so. but if i’m not so fond, i also tell them why. in many cases however, perhaps unsurprisingly, i don’t know these people at all!

    private eye magazine recently called it the “antidote to facebook.”

    having had a lot of positive feedback since its release, it would seem ‘friends like these…’ does make good reading. it’s pocket-sized –so ideal for reading on the tube or next to the toilet or wherever– & is available to order in print (£7.95+p&p) or as a download (£2.95).

    there seems to be a continuous stream of debate on this subject at present, & any comments about my humble contribution would be very much appreciated! thanks.

  23. i came to this site serahcing on google for even a sliver of likemindedness over this strange disease called social networking(to be specific facebook) as i have been intruiged,baffled,and confused of late over how everyone without questioning it,every single person i know who has been capable of anything at all in his life(and those who have been of much more than that too-infact more reason to not question letting the world know) has a facebook account to maintain their worth-and to not have one is thought upon as a decided weakness in the person-or the lack of connections- if one does think of such a person. yes i might not have just so many friends or people who cant do without being in touch with me over facebook.but more than that(and i have tried) i find it absurd and lewd and definitely not as EASY accepting it like its second nature to be playingwho you think you are to a hundred people who you have ever known-as it seems for EVERYONE else. and.. the irony lies in that being the only one who is not on that platter that the world is now seen through,has infact distanced me from even those who knew i was doing fine untill some time back- they now probably think im insignificant to this earth since i do not figure(read not capable of) in their commonly accepted rules of living.so they know nothing about me- and that who one knwos nothing about,it is concluded, has nothing about him worth sharing.it seems ridiculous how it has chnaged the rules of communication, of defining yourself, in such a massively collective way. facebook connects the damn human world! who is insignificant- he who follows or he who has nothing to show? both i guess. what forms a collective- why is this world so inclined towards forming collectives? for me it genuinely seems strnage the act of telling someone what im doing or what might be on my mind and far more difficult now that i have avoided it(without having thought about it-either positively or negatively) for some time. they say out of sight is out of mind,well it certainly seems that whats out of facebook is out of mind. why?? what gives it that collective stature- does everyone want the same things in life- is just everyone who is worth something,like everyone else??how is it so easy for poeple to accept something so complex and layered over an already unfortunately complex and layered existence? poeple are so used to it that they have learnt to not even see how strange the act can seem if looked from an aliens perspective..everyone is doing it with as much ease as theyve gotten used to living each day with. it makes me sad.

  24. I completely agree with the arguement for this addiction called Facebook. Almost all of the people I know have an account and are on it practically all the time. It’s quite worrying that they feel the need to know that people have ‘burnt fingers!!1’ or had an ‘immensee niteee guuys!!111!xxx’. The worst thing for me about this website is the fact that it’s actually CREEPY. If anyone actually bothered to read the Terms and Conditions on their site, blatantly in small print, it states that the moment you put any piece of information or photo of you up on their server, the photo/info is automatically now their property and they can do with it what they will. What I find the worst part of this sub-section too is the shudder-worthy fact that even after you delete your ‘sxc foto’, it’s STILL ON THEIR SERVER and they can still do whatever they desire with it. After all, it’s theirs now. Know something else? I Google imaged my friends’ full names followed by ‘@ Facebook’ (yeah, so curiosity killed the cat) and found TEN of TWELVE friends’ pictures. On GOOGLE. My actual close friends and their pictures on Google..what’s this place come to.

    So I really strongly disagree with Facebook and really discourage anyone from using this trap.

    ..What a rant. :D

  25. Hey, I deleted a facebook “friend” yesterday only to be attacked! For me…I definitely think it is a lot of ego-stroking, funny to hear the similar comments here. I thought facebook was a nice novelty when I first used it but as I matured I found it tiresome to maintain the various groups and game boxes etc etc. I also became irritated at the friend tallies and comparing the updates. “utopia is eating toast and considering blah blah”. It began to feel inauthentic and inadequate for my needs. I recently culled down my list of “friends” on there to people I actually talk to in real life. NOt just people I knew once in school or some hobby group from a year ago because I prefer to have lesser friends but of a more intimate nature.

    That being said, I find it a great tool to simplify having access to a collection of photos of friends and family which otherwise would only be in our own photo albums at home.

    It can also be great and more cost effective for organising invites and events.

    I don’t use it for more than that anymore but if other people get their kicks from it well it aint any business of mine so good luck to em.

    peace, love understanding and a big comfy chair :)

  26. I think Facebook is what it is. A manifestation of something deeper. Just like alcohol or drug addiction. There’s moderate users and addicts. But what it really shows is the prevalence of how our social culture operates – consumerism and ego and a lack of community and spirituality.

  27. I use Moomani.com as it is simple and safe.
    It’s only for very close networks versus random friends. As such it is very purposeful instead of empty and addictive.
    I absolutely love it.

  28. I thought Facebook was kind of fun at first. It’s great for networking with “second tier” and “third tier” friends, sharing photos, organizing events, etc. But then the creators added the newsfeed (do I really care what you just ate for dinner?) and allowed advertisers to infiltrate individual profiles with infinite applications (do I really care what 80s movie best represents me?)–now Facebook just creates a lot of pointless, empty noise. I’m gradually weaning myself off of it by erasing my post history, profile information, photos, etc. until I’m eventually Facebook-free.

  29. I am so glad that there are other anti FaceBook folk out there. I have systematically watched several of my friends become so obsessed with this idiocy that they are changing for the worst! I call it “Facebook Angst” and it is frightening at best. Watched my friend go into a frenzy as her latest “X” quickly posted how he was now “single”.

    I yet to see the point to any of it or why people need to know so much about other people? It’s like some long drawn out high school reunion and I never went to any of those. And no, I do not care what you are doing at any given moment – don’t even get me started on the whole Twitter thing!!! Why must we be so mindless and just follow?? Hell good leaders are hard to find as it is!!!!

    People need to disconnect, get outside and get a dang life. Our social skills suck anymore. What is the point of going to a coffee shop to sit and dink on FB, rather than engaging with what’s around you? I like to actually communicate with people, not smack something up on a “wall” and claim I am being “social”.

    Stupid is as stupid does…..

  30. I am so glad to have found this site. I am a 27 year old female from London and sick and tired of hearing about facebook. I am a social person with a normal amount of friends and I go out regularly. I joined facebook a year ago and I closed my account within 3 months. As well as my regular friends I began to ‘attract’ old friends like from school or previous jobs that I’d lost touch with. Cue music from phsyco film. It was the most irritating form of cummunication. Everytime me and my mates went out it would be “did u hear the latest gossip on facebook?”, “Why haven’t I heard back from so and so on facebook”. People got paranoid if I didn’t ‘poke’ them back or write a msg on their wall (of need) or if I didn’t comment on their ‘please look at me getting drunk’ or ‘I’ve pulled on a night out’ pictures. Note to you all: So fucking what! So you have friends and go out and you have a life. Don’t most of us twentysomethings and thirtysomethings. I love my friends and my boyfriend but I don’t need or WANT to know their current status and thoughts and feelings 24/7. Fuck me how needy have people become!? I work full time in central lon on a make-up counter and I see lots of vain people and bitchiness everyday but thats nothing compared to the fucked up needy world of the facebook cult. My ‘real’ friends are all in my mobile phone contacts list. We see each other when we go out and keep in touch by text and calls. Thankfully slowly but surely my friends are all leaving facebook as I did ages ago. It’s a playground for needy, immature people who need to feel important when in fact nobody on their facebook really gives a shit about the ins and outs of their lifes details. They are just merely being nosy cos they have nothing better to do. On a night out in a bar recently we were howling in fits of laughter over a fight that broke out on the next table which escalated over something petit that was said on facebook. How sad! Get a life you losers. Do yourselves a favour and get off facebook and back in the real world. It suits the student world of 18- 22 year olds but everyone over that age needs to grow up especially 40 plus parents trying to fit in with the teenage kids and recapture their youth. Attention all Facebook users: wake up and smell the coffee. You are part of the most ridiculous passing craze of the new millenium. Their is a difference between real friends and facebook friends. The majority of your f/book friends are just people you know of or once knew or know as a friend of a friend. U don’t really ‘know’ them do you. Do yourselves a favour and come back down to earth. You’re not as important as u think u are so leave this stupid site for your own sakes before you are the only freak left on there because thats all it is people. A craze.

  31. The problem with facebook is that it offers social networking functionality in return for ownership of your identity. This is fundamentally wrong. Internet users should not have to forego the rights to information generated by them, of them or about them, in order to use what are essentially just user-friendly communication tools. Your personal data should be more important to you. Problem is that many Facebook users don’t know or don’t care about the long term implications of giving their data away so easily. They just want to get into the ‘sweet shop’ and get some candy, so to speak…

  32. Facebook is a novelty at ,especially for us twentysomethings but it gets annoying after a while spending your free time feeling that you have to reply to friends who have suddenly become attention seeking and socially copmetitive. It’s actually quite childish and I’m finding it and the people on there too high maintainance so I’m going to close my account.

  33. I’ve been online about half my life, which is an admittedly vague statement. Of all the people I am close to in my life, I would say about 1/3 are those I’ve met on the Internet / BBS. This is still a relatively small amount of people, but any form Internet addiction will create distance in your existing relationships if you don’t make the effort to maintain them. Facebook is no different than anything else a person chooses to do with their time. Maybe it is a surveillance society’s wet dream, and maybe it does give the illusion of closeness while actually creating distance, but there are a lot of other more important things you should be worrying about. This blog is just like Facebook, a place for people to feel self important and relate to each other about something.

  34. I’ve been online about half my life, which is an admittedly vague statement. Of all the people I am close to in my life, I would say about 1/3 are those I’ve met on the Internet / BBS. This is still a relatively small amount of people, but any form Internet addiction will create distance in your existing relationships if you don’t make the effort to maintain them. Facebook is no different than anything else a person chooses to do with their time. Maybe it is a surveillance society’s wet dream, and maybe it does give the illusion of closeness while actually creating distance, but there are a lot of other more important things you should be worrying about. This blog is just like Facebook, a place for people to relate to each other about something, but without the bells and whistles.

  35. I am on facebook under a fake name just so I can monitor what my husband Rob Poulin is doing. The times he insists that he is checking work e-mail or doing a tech fix for a client, I can see by the Facebook time stamps that he is lying. I also have proof of all the times he’s supposed to be taking care of/ interacting with our young children, he’s actually spewing witty crap for his legions of adoring facebook fans. This will be helpful for the child custody portion of our divorce proceedings. Hopefully, I can lose the dead weight face book addict before he gets fired for billing clients for the time he spends on facebook while allegedly working.

  36. If my husband doesn’t stop spending all of his “free” time posting “witty” crap on facebook for his adoring fans/ “friends” he’s going to find him self without a wife and kids. Lovely that he thinks so highly of us to post accounts of the children’s funny actions but seriously, stop lying about needing to “check e-mail for work” when I need help with dinner, or your daughter wants to play a game or your son needs a bottle; we know you are dicking around on facebook. Too bad that you are “just exhausted” so many mornings- may have helped if you turned off the computer instead of having clever “conversations” until the wee hours of the night. One good thing about facebook, though: the time stamps will be very helpful in documenting that you were posting junk on facebook instead of caring for the kids. Great thing to have for the child custody hearing.

  37. Facebook sucks and the people who use them are worthless twats without a life let alone an ability to be themselves.. intellectual people have better time spent then to bother with such unintelligent devices! if you want to show your sluttiness create a facebook page if you are a dirty nasty man or woman who loves wanting to use children for your horrible sexual acts sure go on facebook

  38. was happy to see other people sharing my view on this. i find facebook to be an invasion of privacy. to each its own. plenty of people/friends have asked me why i’m not on it. plain and simple..i’m not into it is what i say. i happen to be an outgoing and friendly person. facebook violates us. i also feel that it’s for people that are needing ro prove something and a need to try to make themselves feel important and noticed. aside for trying to reconnect with an old friend i find it absolute nonsense.

  39. Facebook and other social networking sites are highly illegal, and they endanger many individuals around the globe who have little knowledge of it. Social networking sites spam millions of people daily in the form of invitations which are effectively harassment. Just because you have distributed your email to an individual in the past does not mean that you lose your right to privacy. Some sites like Quechup import address books and spam individuals unknowingly to the registrants. Social networking sites cannot assume that individuals who have not visited their site want to join.

  40. I have to pick everyone’s jaw up off the floor upon informing them that no, I don’t have a Facebook, and yes, my life is complete. It’s stupid. People sit in front of their computers, “connecting” with each other while missing out on the important fact that telling people what you’re doing and how your life is going via a machine isn’t actually “connecting.” It’s very fake. One can be whoever they want and falsify their image. There is no purpose to it. If people got off of Facebook the world would be a more productive place.

  41. all the wrong type of people join facebook – if this was called soulbook – they would sprint away in their millions – shallow , dopey types who discuss anything in front of them to anyone ….. sorry no-one gives a shit …… really , how dull and predictable they are . somehow they do think they are celebrities , drowning in a fun-filled bonanza of small details and hot-air . i got up today (wow) and looked at the sky (well) and said today is the next day of my life (curious ?) i had breakfast got ready for the day (familiar?) i drove to work (no camels?) ……… seriously I would go on , but I will have to shoot myself ….. the system has to introduce some control , perhaps an intelligence test , the current system must have a “cretins encouraged to comment” segment where serial buffoons are free to dispense their views on everything , they also would have been the ones crying at parties when we were all drunk having fun , pasty-faced ingenues sobbing or skwawking like a fishwife the moment something wasnt quite right – can facebook please dissolve ? and take some of its zealots with it ? cheers

  42. I tried being on Facebook. I loathed it. My teenage children enjoy it – and that, to me, makes sense because they’re teenagers. But for adults?! Eegad! Through my eyes (and my friends, in real life, seem normal enough) I saw nothing but messages sent to nobody in particular in a pathetic approval-seeking manner. And I saw narcissism. I also saw thinly veiled attempts at business networking in the guise of sociability. Yech! Blech! I closed my account forever. Let that flimsy little world spin on without me in it!

  43. Facebook in it’s inception was a fantastic idea – a place for “social networking” for people who were not in close proximity to each other – where groups /families could discuss openly there ideas,feelings,their triumphs and tragedies or simply to state what was on their minds…….REAL communication – it is not the fault of facebook. More so our own faults and inequities, the shortcomings that we blame facebook for are actually our insecurities – personal insecurities and fears – We are all afraid to express our fears, our vulnerabilities .We aspire to present our “camera side” for we all fear that the world is viewing us under a microscope and we must appear that we are all leading the “perfect” life that we ourselves imagined or that life that those among us imagined for us! Stop bitching about facebook until you make it real….. it begins with you – granted we cannot control how others are using/manipulating this medium – but ask yourself this…….am I being true to myself? This is a very important question these days because this is electronica – we can’t very well look into each others eyes and distinguish for ourselves the subtleties and the poker – face(I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR THE LADY-GAGA REFERENCE GAFB!) I can only speak from my own experience – I too was taken aback,for I thought it to be a forum for actually connecting with people – not “E” connecting but something more organic – but that depends on the people who are using it and what their motives are – let’s keep it real – I understand that the social games like “Farmville – Mafia Wars etc should be an “icebreaker” for people out of touch -and if utilized properly by people with a noble and just cause ( such as myself Me thinks!) it would be a perfect way to reconnect, but it seems that with some people,that is the extent of their contact, “Oh such and and such sent you a gift on Farmville Don’t get me wrong – if that ,in fact opens up a direct line of communication and we actually connect on a “personal level then that is a success but on the other hand if the best we can do is blah – blah -fucking blah….If that is the best someone can do why bother? That is in no way.shape or form a direct way of communication. So listen up you fucking robots,the time is now and the place is here – you get out of it what you put into it. So those who agree with me “UP THE IRONS” – Those that don’t…..I’m sorry but piss the fuck off!!!

  44. Yeah piss – off to ANTI-FACEBOOK WTF? You post ass – backwards? – It took me 15min to search thru your site just to see if my “opinion” posted – it should not be THAT difficult -not that I want to see my name in lights but i always like to follow up.dig this people – keyword “Anti-Facebook DEMOGRAPHIC! Fuck the hell off!! Sorry I wasted my time with the people – ANTI-FACEBOOK ,Ya got me this time – but never again! Copyright FBS 2009 All rights reserved* Public display of this content is strictly prohibited without prior consent of FSB* Enterprises*

  45. First, I would like to start out by saying that Facebook, Myspace, and all other social networking sites like them are for narcissistic individuals who have no backbones to stand up against social conformity. I myself am not on facebook or any other social networking site, but I do have many friends, and family members who visit those sites religiously and I have seen several pages, which has sparked my dislike for these sites. In a society where famous people are idolized for making their personal lives public, people feel the need to emulate today’s stars and publish their personal business on the internet, perhaps this makes these individuals feel important. Unfortunately, people don’t realize the risks that may arise after creating a facebook page and this is where the smartest people become the biggest dopes, idiots, and dummies. Facebook users dont realize that even if their page is so called “private” they still could draw the attention of stalkers. Many facebook users use the argument “I only accept and request people who I know” but after seeing several pages I have noticed that people are accepting people who they know but it doesn’t mean that they know them very well. In my opinion even if I know you doesnt mean that I want you to know what I’m doing in my personal life. Another thing that people don’t realize is that when they post pictures of themselves they leave clues, such as where they hang out or maybe they accidentally post their address in a picture because they took a “cute pic” infront of their house. Very dangerous and risky.

  46. Facebook has to be forbidden, it”s just dangerous and insane.

    I would compare it to scientology.

    Bad and mean, just a money machine.

    Socialising ???? alone behind your screen hoping to have some message in your box…

  47. I’ve been more disappointed and frustrated with Facebook, than happy with it. It is as a lot of you say…a very powerful mind control, life control, goal control, etc. “religion”. It is completely fake and full of ego. It truly is mind boggling how so many people get caught up in it and live their lives by it. I am a participant as of late and am getting annoyed by the “junk” of it…such as the hourly commentary of peoples’ lives and the pic comments and kudos kudos kudos to everyone. If you have real issues, people don’t want to bother with you…because didn’t you know??? You have to be happy and always sending someone a heart or a hug or some idiotic compliment. Now I have to figure out how to delete my account.

  48. I have quitted my facebook after I found my privacy has been devulged so easily. You really turn me down—Facebook. Yes, you are easy assess and convenience for people to connet to each other..but you don’t have sharo eyes to identify the true identity.So I am totally anti-facebook…assertive

  49. Yippee!!!!!!!!!! I don’t have much to say, as its all been said Face/Farcebook is CRAP!!!!! I prefer to meet real people and that would mean leaving the house…:-)…. I spent time on the site and the more I was there I hated it with a passion! I have since deactivated my account, although not permenately :-( they don’t seem to let you. And I am much happier without.

    P.s. I’m just glad I am not the only one who feels the same about Face/Farcebook.

  50. Last week, my profile got hacked and my friends started to receive all sorts of nonsense link with my profile name attached. What the fuck Facebook?

  51. Facebook, or more correctly ‘Farcebook’ should be wiped off the internet together with other so-called social networking sites. As many have already said they are about egoism a sad human characteristic previously reserved for the minority. The two main ingredients for egoism are arrogance and ignorance – so how many farcebook users realise how they are inadvertently adopting these characteristics in their quest to have more “friends”? Relationships are destroyed through increased arrogance, the perpetrator believing that old relationships can be rekindled at the expense of their current one. Ignorance enables them to ‘believe’ that “it’s normal”. Those of us that are more intelligent (normal) can see the dangers lurking behind the veil of deception called social networking. It will fail just like pyramid selling did (another ‘networking’ scam). Until it does, and those that are responsible are charged with the appropriate crimes against humanity, us normal people will carry on talking to each other – face to face [book].

  52. Once, I got so irritated with Facebook, and all other “social networking” sites, that not only have I never joined and will never join, but I took a quarter representing them and chilled it to minus one hundred and nine degrees fahrenheit in a mixture of dry ice and rubbing alcohol

  53. You people are frigging idiots. Seriously? Facebook was originally designed for college students till opened to the public. Originally only people with University Emails could sign up. I have ton’s of friends from high school and college who are on there, that is what my Facebook consists of. All you mindless conservatives should really just shut the hell up. Facebook is what you make of it.

    Stop your bitching and get a damn life!

  54. Facebook people are self promoting wanna be’s! Who can really trust anything written on facebook?. It should be called fakebook, anyone on earth can start up a facebook page and get a group of fake fiends to appear popular to anyone who views the page.

    I struggle to understand why people think they need an active facebook page full friends they hardly know and useless information about themselves. If they do it to feel popular then this doesn’t make sense because anyone who is even remotley popular online or has something useful to offer the world wide web usually they have their own website right? If you have your own website why would you need a facebook page? If you have a facebook page to tell the world about yourself then this just tells me you are a freeloader who is using a free website to promote yourself. If you are really serious about promoting yourself then you would have your own website to do it. The internet has been around for years now, if you want to join in then build a website and stop looking for an easy cheats way to do it. The world wide web is made up of websites not facebook sites. The users need to get over themselves and get back into what made the www in the first place. Individual websites is the key to the success of the internet no matter what your trying to get out of it, not some network run by a small group of gen y’s with messy hair and pants half way down their backsides. Has the world gone mad? Half the people on it can’t even spell, use incorrect grammer and appear to be dumb stupid or ignorant.

    P.S. sorry if I’ve miss spelt anything or used incorrect grammer myself, it is late, I’m tired and about to get off this time waster, theres real work to do.

  55. To the person who said to get a damn life…… I have got a DAMN LIFE!!!!!!! I’m not being subjected to Farcebook…. I haven’t been on FB since my last rant on this site, do I miss it???? NO I BLOODY DON’T!!!!!! Now that’s having a LIFE! :-)))

  56. Virtual commodity cattle. Millions of dollars made from people freely giving out personal information. Who is behind the curtain viewing all this information and what could it be pertentually be used for? Would you swim in a pool that a majority of users have shat in? Designed to be addictive! Good idea,wrong hands.

  57. I honestly think it depends what you portray yourself as! I’ve personally deleted facebook for the amount of abuse I get for not responding to ‘friends’…get out and enjoy life while you have it! Day or Night!

  58. Does anyone write letters any more? I guess faffbook is a high tech form of passing notes or letters,but publicly.. It has great value as a communication tool,but what the majority of its users dont realise is that their thoughts,lives,information are easily available to anyone. How many users have accepted a ‘friend’ request from someone they do not know? Someone who could be potentially stalking them to cause harm? It saddens me to think that the younger generations will grow up never passing notes in class or writing letters to friends overseas. Anyone reading this should read blind faith by ben elton. He describes a world that we might likely see if faffbook continues to influence the majority the way it is doing so..

  59. funny thing: there’s even an anti-facebook dating site. no kiddin’. see recent post in BLABLABLOG:

    MAKE LOVE, NOT “LIKE”

    https://docs.google.com/View?id=ddsh78r7_36f9wf8gcw

    Recently, there has been a growing interest in the "Anti-Facebook Movement". The best known example is diaspora.com, the Anti-Facebook social net. Now we hear on another site, no-fad.com, an Anti-Facebook dating site for people who ban Facebook or just doesn't like it. The site is full of slogans like: "Hate Facebook - with passion", "Looking for relationship, not relationship status", "Love people - hate Facebook", etc. The site is free for anyone except Mark Zuckerberg, who should pay 500,000,000$ for joining. "One dollar for every soul he corrupted", says the site's owner, John Purian. I interviewed him last Sunday.
    -Who needs an Anti-Facebook dating site? What is wrong with dating sites like PlentyOfFish.com?
    -There are fish who like to swim against the stream. Facebook is the cancer of the 21th century. It's spreading everywhere and pollutes our human environment, damaging the most important thing in our life: our social, romantic, and family connections. It promotes values like voyeurism, hypocrisy and boisterousness. It's the most serious treat on our freedom - not Al-Qaeda.
    -OK, I got it. You hate Facebook.
    -There are many people who don't want to be part of this game. And now they have an alternative. They can find people like themselves, who believe in real friends and real relationships, and actually know their friends.
    -Wow, actually know their friends?
    -You're laughing, but the weird thing is that this concept became subversive.
    -Isn't it really a site for social outcasts?
    -These you can find everywhere in Facebook. Many of our users are "people persons", who just can't stand the shallowness and artificiality of the Facebook society. Until today they were facing a cruel choice: join or vanish. We address the silent majority, people who spend their time with their real friends and family, who believe in person to person communication, and their private life is private.
    -By the way, do you have a Facebook profile?
    -No, but my dog has.
    
    Later I talked with Sharon, one of the site's users. "I wanted a relationship like in the old times, before it became a show for two players in front of their friends", Sharon says. "Now I know that I'm not alone, and there are many people like me. Thanks to no-fad.com they are not alone, too".
    
  60. i’m so glad to come across this thread of comments. i’ve had such a horrible experience with facebook.

    before i really knew what it was like a friend of mine pressured me into signing up for an account. and since i never really wanted it in the first place i never used it . This prompted her to force me to sign into my account so that she could make changes to my accounts. I was pretty mortified. As she was also adding people that i realized although i knew them i didn’t like them enough to want them to see the details of my life. So after that incident i closed down my account. That was over 3 years ago.

    to this day it still affects me negatively. some of the people closest to me are facebook addicts which really tick me off because its a huge thing we don’t have in common. especially when it’s a love interest. what a huge turn off!

    i worry about the pictures people post up of me and i tend to try to avoid being photographed but sometimes it’s avoidable. people don’t even share photos anymore, they expect u to get it off their facebook. so in this respect i am out of the loop. But i combat this in my own way. I almost always bring my own camera now, take my own pictures which, TOO BAD, you will not get them thru facebook.

    it annoys me when ppl ask why i don’t have an account. i will just straight up tell them. i don’t want to use it. (WTF is it to them?) if they press asking why, my response is only “BECAUSE I don’t want to”

    when i hear about what goes on. i’m so glad that i dont have to face the pressures of facebook. i keep in touch with the people i care about the most. in fact i go out of my way to send an email, text or make a phone call.

    Sure i’ve thought about finding and getting in touch with people that i used to know. but i realized, it’s not worth the sacrifice because there’s a reason we’re not in touch anymore. even if i find them again, then what, exchange a few messages? and then the relationship will fade into oblivion again.

    i don’t even mind not getting invited to events. this tells me who my true friends are. if you want me there you will contact me. I am doing perfectly without facebook. my relationships with people are well and personal and not distant and digitized.

    i am proud to have gone this long without facebook and when i get over those bumps of “should i just get an account” because maybe someone i met and like uses it, i just feel stronger in the end. And those people that i like, i’m still in contact with.

    and the best is when an avid facebook user asks if i have a facebook account and after I tell them no, instead of asking why, they say “Good for you.”

  61. i’m so glad to come across this thread of comments. i’ve had such a horrible experience with facebook.

    before i really knew what it was like a friend of mine pressured me into signing up for an account. and since i never really wanted it in the first place i never used it . This prompted her to force me to sign into my account so that she could make changes to my accounts. I was pretty mortified. As she was also adding people that i realized although i knew them i didn’t like them enough to want them to see the details of my life. So after that incident i closed down my account. That was over 3 years ago.

    to this day it still affects me negatively. some of the people closest to me are facebook addicts which really tick me off because its a huge thing we don’t have in common. especially when it’s a love interest. what a huge turn off!

    i worry about the pictures people post up of me and i tend to try to avoid being photographed but sometimes it’s avoidable. people don’t even share photos anymore, they expect u to get it off their facebook. so in this respect i am out of the loop. But i combat this in my own way. I almost always bring my own camera now, take my own pictures which, TOO BAD, you will not get them thru facebook.

    it annoys me when ppl ask why i don’t have an account. i will just straight up tell them. i don’t want to use it. (WTF is it to them?) if they press asking why, my response is only “BECAUSE I don’t want to”

    when i hear about what goes on. i’m so glad that i dont have to face the pressures of facebook. i keep in touch with the people i care about the most. in fact i go out of my way to send an email, text or make a phone call.

    Sure i’ve thought about finding and getting in touch with people that i used to know. but i realized, it’s not worth the sacrifice because there’s a reason we’re not in touch anymore. even if i find them again, then what, exchange a few messages? and then the relationship will fade into oblivion again.

    i don’t even mind not getting invited to events. this tells me who my true friends are. if you want me there you will contact me. I am doing perfectly without facebook. my relationships with people are well and personal and not distant and digitized.

    i am proud to have gone this long without facebook and when i get over those bumps of “should i just get an account” because maybe someone i met and like uses it, i just feel stronger in the end. And those people that i like, i’m still in contact with.

    and the best is when an avid facebook user asks if i have a facebook account and after I tell them no, instead of asking why, they say “Good for you.”

  62. @ By Soz: So my relatives in the Philippines don’t like me because I haven’t seen them in foru years while I was in America? Also, we have a busy life so I can’t be able to see some of the people I used to hang out with. Plus, I graduated and I talk to some people who are still in my old high school. In fact, people who don’t likeme ARE THE ONES THAT ADD ME ON FB.

    That aside, As much as I think status updates are stupid, I ONLY have a FaceBook for communications purposes only. I have family that live far away so at least I know what they’re up to.

  63. Wow! Finally people with common sense! I was introduced to facebook (lower case for a reason) by a really neat guy that I really liked lots. In fact I thought he was “the One”. We really hit it off well…at first. I then noticed something very peculiar. He kept running to the office throughout the day to “check his email”. Everytime we came home he made a bee-line to the office. At first it was for about 15 minutes or so each time. It then became an hour or more. I soon realized that he was addicted to his other 575 friends. Most of who he has never met, and will probably never meet. I also realized that –after some undesirable disagreements about the time he spent on facebook, if there was a choice between me and his facebook account, I would lose. This guy seemed to have a lot of common sense and self confidence. But facebook brought out the vanity and insecurities. He even posted our breakup on it in double language and had all kinds of “you poor baby” posts from people he had never met. I count myself one of the lucky ones for getting out of the relationship before getting too involved. But…then again… how could we get involved when one is addicted to one dimensional flat surface media rather than a 3 dimensional person? I know there are more people out there who have had this problem. Just know that if you are not naturally shallow you will not mix with a facebook junkie very well. Or then again you can lower yourself to their standards and live in blissful 5 minute drama 24/7.

  64. I think that people should leave facebook, because we are losing the ability to communicate face to face as human beings, we might as well not exist if we have nothing else to see but a picture of someones face on a screen. We are also supporting suicides, racism, and prejuduce by going on facebook, an example being all the homophobes who constantly use the word gay and faggot interchangeably. And we are giving Mark Zuckerberg billions of dollars without thinking what he’s actually doing with it. He may have it all for Newark, but what’s Newark using it for? No offense Newark, I love Newark, use the money wisely and dont let it get in the hands of the wrong people. Facebook is a 100 percent waste of time!

  65. i am tired of people saying that facebook is a good way to catch up with old friends. more like stalk them. if they are truly you friends then they would be in your life and have contact through a phone or lunch. its funny how people upload the good pics of their selves falsifying there true looks. it is a virtual fantasy life that people can live instead of the reality of their own lives. ” i just took a shower” i am about to eat dinner” Status, Really? Who the bleep cares what you are doing. we are to busy with our own lives to give a bleep. what you are doing. people can have 200 friends on facebook and not 1 friend in reality. i am here to declare facebook is a 21st century psychological disorder for sick people. Im almost sure the guy that made it was the kid i picked on in school. “lets all take pictures of ourselves with alcohol beverages in our hands and post them although we are not of the legal age to drink” “lets change my relationship status to single so i can advertise my need for self approval from the opposite sex”

  66. I’m really hoping my job will not force me to have a facebook account. I expressed my opnion on the matter and was shunned. My hope is Social Media will implode. :-)

  67. Facebook is a crap..sucked the life out of me..wasting time with farms and crap…can still hear Bri saying…what are you clicking on…my dam farms etc….why oh why….facebook brings so much guilt and despair..brings me so much regret…I HATE FACEBOOK….took me away from my real despair in life…my husband died 8/30/09..FACEBOOK FUCKS UP REAL LIFE….my life suck more from face book….ended my account….I don’t need to know THE TOO MUCH INFORMATION CRAP…TMI…duh….

  68. Facebook wrecks lives – fact. It’s ruined our friends lives thanks to negative influences spinning things when they were having problems. Its now in danger of doing the same to mine. People are losing a sense of reality and getting caught up in this instant gratification that will ultimately be short-lived, but by the time they work it out the people that really care about them will be gone. but does that matter while they have 312 friends of which 290 they’ve never met more than once if at all. Thanks to facebook the whole world knows your problems and has an opinion on it – often before you even know about it. I give you this – five years ago we had ‘faceparty’ which was a similar site, its now gone. Lets hope Facebook follows suit, it is being used by vulnerable people that need real support not quick fixes from distant people.

  69. An open source community driven project cannot possibly compete with the existing network monopoly that is Facebook in order to develop the scale and power of software and architecture needed. Never mind security. Equally users have absolutely no reason to switch to another corporate overlord when Facebook does a great job of providing a free service.

    The only alternative that stands a chance is one run as a business, employing the best full time staff, investing in the same advertising, business partnerships and hardware as Facebook, but with any profits going to charities chosen by the users so they are motivated to spread the word. This means users privacy can be balanced with money raised for charity and users have an incentive to open up more if they choose to.

    Initial investors (Dragons Den?) could be promised a capped, say 300% ROI and a place on the board of trustees that are trusted to maximise profits for charity, not shareholders, while listening to the users. I’m sure there are plenty of people who would do some pro-bono work to help from developers to lawyers to ego driven businessmen to celebrities.

    If Lady Gaga and co can go without social networking for a day in the name of one charity I’m sure they could be brought on board if they stand to help charities long term.

    This is one internet business where people hold the ultimate power. Somebody just needs to get it going. I’ve not got the time and skills to do it but I’d happily join and promote it if someone gets it going.

    Diaspora might even make a good starting point but it will need a heck of a lot more people behind it who have good business sense but aren’t just in it for themselves.

  70. Koowie calls itself the anti-facebook website. It’s very different than facebook as they connect people based on people’s thoughts. Interesting concept.

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  72. just gonna try to post this but my greatest fear is that future generations will genetically lose people skills

  73. I’am a dog and my master is posting this in my behalf. FaceBook steels my contacts and address from my computer and with out my permission or my contacts permission then use the data to sell to other companys involving them in their scam in “Theif by Deception”. The best thing I like about all of this is I get plenty of latter paper to piss on!!

  74. Hi guys, I’m the founder of Koowie and I built a website that is meant to be anti-facebook. A true anti-facebook website should be a social network that serves a purpose, like connecting people based on shared interests, not to meaningless peruse our so called friends images and random blurbs. Koowie does this. It connects people based on each of our thoughts, so whatever thought you have in your head you can connect to another person with similar thoughts. Thus a more purposeful website and true anti-facebook. Thanks and I hope for your support! http://koowie.com.

  75. 2 things:

    1. O hate it when FB claims that it is “such a good way to connect” since when have my grandparents wasted their time on Facebook? Never.
    2. Why do we need a network for the hate, isn’t being against facebook partially about spreading trafic and letting people be open-minded (FB is a min-closer, it blinds you to your friends that you don’t “like” a lot of posts for, hence clique-izing everyone, but if we make another network to unite all of us, then what happens when FaceBook Falls (it happened to MySpace, a better site. . .

    By the way, my site ( http://Darksminky.com/ ) is not supportive of FaceBook.

  76. I just blocked all the contact ways to my old FB account, deleted all the friends and deactivated it. After some readings i found out that these social networks apart from being unsecure they are also bringing syndroms never known before like anomia. Anyway don’t get on that piece of crap, don’t even get on Twitter as it is the same shit , don’t get on these sites, just grab a good book and read it’s guts out. Go outside and do something, go to a club, grab a girl, get laid, feel good, live your life damn it!

  77. What is one of the things you do in Facebook??? Socialize connect with friends? So now they suspended my account because I have been adding to my buddies list of people I know from another Virtual World that closed. Excuse Me! But isn’t that what you are suppose to do? You post them on users home page “people you might know”. You are appeasing three people and pissing off a thousand.

    Keep it up DORK, what a way to diminish your user base.

    Your motto now should be “The last thing I want to do is answer questions at a press conference”. Or. ” Press one for English”.

  78. I need me fartbook. Me got small wiener. I say to purty lady me big! ha ha. i like fartbook. they got games like farmerman and dope farmin man. oh man so fun!!!!! i like farmerman game wheeeee!!!!

  79. I can’t live without my facebook. All my people in the clubs are in the fb game. If your a not into it then you need to go back to bedrock and bowl with flintstone. We don’t need you in our facebook.

  80. “I can’t live without my facebook” – Sweet Joey

    No offense, but I can only shake my head in utter dispair, that Facebook, a closed proprietary platform run by a for profit corporation is taking over, assimilating and monopolising the web and gaining almost unrelenting control and influence over our live. Granted, I wouldn’t be so horrified if “facebook” was an open platofrom or an open ratified standard that wasn’t controlled and monopolised by a single private corporate.

    Honestly people, do you honestly trust facebook, a closed proprietary platform run by a “for profit” monopolistic corporation with so much power and control over the internet and our lives?

  81. So glad to find this site. I’ve been feeling quite depressed reading the drivel that people write on their face book pages. Is this what communication has come to? I’ve tried to deactivate my account, but still getting messages. Can anyone help me or is it impossible to get off.

  82. I laugh at the people that get on facebook, especially the ones that say they can’t live without it. Being told that you don’t know how to live life by someone that has a facebook addiction is like being told you don’t know how to eat by a vegan. I won’t go as far to say that facebook and social websites destroys lives no more then drugs do. It’s the same kind of addiction, you do it out of curiosity or because your friends are doing it or whatever lame excuse you can come up with like “Oh everyone is doing it” You do it to keep in touch with family and friends and the next thing you know you have other addicts you don’t even really know on there as your FRIEND. Oh yes I know THEY understand me. What a bunch of crap. You say stupid shit on facebook because you TRUST your friends. The only problem lame brain is that your friends will screw you over faster then your enemies.

    The really funny thing is anyone who gets on this crap Facebook, myspace,twitter or whatever other stupid shit they try to call this braindead mind numbing stupidity really needs to look at their life. The fact is the only winners here are the owners of this so called SOCIAL garbage. Those fuckheads get richer and the population gets dumber. They sell your so called information or in the case of the government, since Zuckerfuck is in bed with the white house they GIVE it away. The track all your crap. They probably track this too, i just don’t give a shit and don’t live under the assumption that what i say on the net doesn’t get out. Besides just for al lthe Twitfacespace users out there——–A MONKEY with no formal education can get your information off those sites. All i can do is laugh. You fucknut users are anything but original, Your getting brainwashed into this shit with cool little catchphrases like “All my friends do it” or “It’s the future get on or get left behind” The fact is you were left behind probably before you were even born. If your unlucky to live long enough you’ll know what i mean.

    As for me i will be outside everyday taking in the sunshine, rain,snow you know NATURE the natural high and using the internet for information on things i like to do in my life. Yes kiddies you CAN have a life outside a computer screen. That’s all there was before the ninties. I know the idea of having a life is so old fashioned but damn it’s better then being a mindless drone. Carry on facbookers and Twitters as the world around you crumbles and your freedoms are lost and one day you’ll wake up and well—————Who knows just maybe—–just maybe Lets face it You’re screwed.LOL How ironic the very thing you think you need to live is your downfall. All you really need to live are still the basics Air, food, water and shelter but i guess as long as you have someone to provide that for you all you need is facebook. I call for a facebook burning. Damn that was long.

  83. PS……… How to tell if you are in need of a life. If you have email and it never gets used because everyone you talk to is on facebook—-You need a life.

    If you text only and never call someone to get the personal feel of a conversation. You need a life.

    If you often find yourself actually trying to have a conversation in person with one person and find it rather difficult to do when the whole time you are trying to text or facebook at the same time——-you really need a life.

    You want to be different, you want to stand out in a crowd, you want to do the unthinkable—-Get a LIFE Or just continue on your mindless path and facebook away any hope for a future. Pay attention to what goes on in the world learn and try to make a difference even if it is a small difference.

    Always remember my facebook friends Just because an idea is popular doesn’t make it right. Besides Why the hell would you want to know what all your friends are doing all the time? and why would you want to tell your friends what your doing all the time? Are you so in need of friends that you are willing to tell people EVERYTHING about your life.

    This in itself is the proof that you don’t have a life. If this is you, it’s not too late there is still time to save yourself. I know it’s hard but you can do it. Just don’t do it. If you read this and it pisses you off then you are who i’m refering to. Don’t take it personal it’s a little something us here in the real world call the truth and yes it hurts sometimes but still needs to be said. are you are all lying about most of it anyway.

  84. besides the face to face communication facebook fucks our privacy…being young and having read the book 1984(big brother) i can’t prevent myself from constantly thinking of all the shit that is coming towards us and the existance of facebook is a proof of that.

  85. Miss Froy wrote: “Just know that if you are not naturally shallow you will not mix with a facebook junkie very well. Or then again you can lower yourself to their standards and live in blissful 5 minute drama 24/7.”

    Wisest thing I’ve read on here. Fb is here to stay, it’s ridiculous to moan and say it should be banned IMO, but who uses/is addicted to it is a very useful indicator of personality/compatibility.

  86. Today more than 600 million people are in facebook and the network is still growing. All those Users have 1 thing in common: they wasted their life in this shit. The sense of life isnt staying in this bullshit. Mark Zuckerberg is only getting richer and richer without thinking about the private life of his facebook users. Most of the people are becoming facebook addicted, they are anymore able to talk outside of the internet. Our Life is the world outside, outside of our Houses, outside of the Internet. But in a World of Globalization, prostitution, money and/or internet addicted people we lost our human dignity in order to make the self destruction of ourselfs.

  87. I don’t call for a ban on Facebook or anything else for that matter. As stupid as i think social networking sites are, they are no different then anything else that has the potential to ruin a persons life. People still have the god given right to be complete goons if they choose. It works out well for the rest of us. Look at this way, if the world does go to hell in a hand basket then that is fewer people we will have competing for food. They will all be at their desks in their mommy’s basement wondering why the BOX of life won’t work. The rest of us will be surviving. By the time the lame brain goons figure out what is going on they will be so frail from lack of nutrition to pull themselves up the basement steps to save their own skin. ( I know, you are reading this and you think i’m joking) It’s no joke, I know some of these people and all i can say is WOW. What a bunch of dumb shits.

    I don’t want Facebook banned, it’s just not for me. Put simply, I have a life. I do on the other hand enjoy watching addicts become addicted to it while making excuses for why they do it and denying that they have a problem with it. All along giving up on the things that are truely worthwhile in life to sit in front of a computer 24/7 as their marriages crumble and their kids learn to follow their footsteps and they scratch their heads wondering just what went wrong with the kids. It is deffinatly a social experiment and people are being played from all angles with Facebook and other sites and we get to sit back and watch.

    So pull up a chair and sit and watch as the internet and social networking sites take the place of real family and real friends. It’s an interesting show but i think the outcome will suck. It is just hard to imagine that people are giving up human contact or the feel good of social networking sites. Truthfully i’d rather have meaningless human contact then the Facebook experience.

    These people live in the world of if you don’t have Facebook, ride a Harley, wear FUBU or drink budweiser then you are not living life. How pathetic.

  88. I see couples sitting next to each other and the mobile phones are out and yep you guessed it – F$%ing facebooking!!! Not enjoying each others company! The sooner this rubbish is shut down the better for all IMO!!

  89. You just have to look at facebook for what it is. It is no different then a drug. People hear about it and they are intrigued by it all the while saying how dangerous it is. Then they have a few close friends who try it and all they hear is how wonderful it is and that there is no harm in it if you learn to do it right. Then the next thing you know they too get sucked into a virtual world that they never thought they would be in. They lose wives and husbands and ruin what was once relationships that they could not have wanted more from. All of this for the pleasure of hearing some stranger say what? “I Love you, Your sexy, You have such a way with words.” The truth is it is nice to hear things like that from your spouse and had you got your fat Fucking ass off Facebook long enough maybe your spouse would have told you all those things you wanted to hear. But it is hard for any husband or wife to convey any kind of message to their spouse when that spouse shows more interest in a fucking pawnstars game on facebook then they do their own family. Facebook is a drug and Zuckerfucker is the dealer. people buy into this shit and when their world falls down around them they just can’t seem to figure what went wrong. In the words of Homer Simpson DUH!!!!! It started out with Chat rooms where people could be discreet then it moved to personal IM’s whereby using the word personal people actually thought it meant just for them..

    Then it moved to social NETWORKING. First it was Myspace then twitter, then it was Facebook. Zuckerfucker will peddle his shit and you will all make him a gazillionaire then when all the lives are ruined from this crap he will be sitting back in his luxurious mansion sipping his Scotch wondering just how lucky he is to have learned just how to sell SHIT to stupid people. Hw will be counting his money and the Facebook followers will be on to the next virtual drug. Then the process will start all over and some other punk kid with an idea will come up with the next social networking brainchild and a new generation of mindless idiots will be born.

    Look outside sometimes folks. If you are over 40 remember back when you were a kid and think about all the peopl that were outside in the summertime. Now go look outside and look at the difference. There used to be kids playing ball. It seems as our population grows, our outside population gets smaller. Oh, i know traffic is still a bitch right? so there MUST be people still outside right? Just look around some day and count the people on there cell phones while driving. The new phones are just an exstension of the computer with Facebook icons and everything.

    I see people heading to work at 5:30 in the morning talking on the cell phone. You think to yourself what the fuck would you need to talk on the phone at 5:30 in the morning for then it hits me. The fucking idiot spent the whole night before on facebook talking to virtual girl and neglected his real life and now has to play catch up. OR He is still talking to virtual girl? Who knows anymore. Really though, what do we expect in this all about me world we live in. People have just gone off the fucking deep end and they don’t swim too well in it.

  90. Facebook is the worst thing in the modern world. It is just not possible to have thousands and thousands of “friends”. Are you real friends with every single one of them? And who really cares if someone has set their status to “BORRREED”. If they’re that bored, GET OFF THE DAMNED SITE AND FIND SOMETHING TO DO! It’s crazy. I joined up because someone I knew said “You have to have an account. Just make one”. So I did, and once that was done, I had people I hadn’t seen in years all of a sudden add me. How would they have known that I had an account within a week of creating it! No one would ever chat with me and my posts went unnoticed. Soon after, the account was history. And the next thing you know people were begging me to join up again.

  91. rude grl and Jeremy are right, Facebook should be down. I can’t believe about 800 mln people using such a method to connect each other and discuss a lot of useless and fulish matters ……. sometimes reading the anti-socnet.com articles and getting crazy with the terrible things happening every day at social network sites and around.

  92. Doesn’t seem to matter what site you enter on the internet now,they all have a facebook logo on them.Are these morons who live 24/7 on there facebook account that bored that they don’t have a life outside of it? That hacker who infiltrated facebook a while ago,should have been given a medal.

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